To find the XML indexes in a database:
SELECT * FROM [sys].xml_indexes
To identify the primary XML index:
SELECT [sxi].name "Primary index name", [so].name "Table name" FROM [sys].xml_indexes sxi JOIN [sys].objects so ON (so.object_id = sxi.object_id) WHERE using_xml_index_id IS NULL
To identify the secondary XML indexes:
SELECT sxi.name "Secondary index name", so.name "Table name" FROM [sys].xml_indexes sxi JOIN [sys].objects so ON (so.object_id = sxi.object_id) WHERE using_xml_index_id IS NOT NULL;
To rebuild an XML index:
ALTER INDEX [XML index name here] ON [table name here] REBUILD